Psychology of difficult people – Frenemies
“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” — William Shakespeare
Smiles, laughter, joy and positivity. These actions and feelings are common in many friendships. People are often bonded by the good times. Negativity is also a meeting point for some friends. Sometimes, persistent sadness and discouraging language can become too much for any kind of relationship to bear. Dealing with the negative behavior is essential for remaining happy and productive, as advocated by Mental Health America, a resource for and proponent of mental wellness.
Jacqueline Whitmore, business etiquette expert and founder of the Protocol School of Palm Beach, an organization for helping people navigate social and business situations, wrote several tips about dealing with negative people in an article for Entrepreneur magazine.
Whitmore likes to choose her battles when dealing with negative people. Otherwise, both parties can enter an argument. Ignoring toxicity can put the listener on the high road. In a similar strategy, set boundaries with the Debbie or Dale Downer. Keep a social and physical distance with him or her. If not possible, at least keep interactions short and to the point, Whitmore tells her clients.
An objective and positive support system can also help keep a buffer between the person and the negative influencer, Whitmore states. If the demanding person is creating emotional difficulty for the listener, he or she can leave and contact a sympathetic friend or family member for advice. The friendly ear can ground positive person in better attitude again.
Last but not least, Whitmore articulates that embodying the positive ideal when possible is a good defense against the bad feelings of another.
Lindsay Holmes, the healthy living editor with the Huffington Post, provided several tips for creating more positive thinking, therefore better resisting the harmful attitudes of others.
“Most negative thoughts aren’t conscious, we’re not even aware of them,” explained Joffrey Suprina, Ph.D., dean of the College of Behavioral Sciences at Argosy University based in the city of Orange, California. “Positive thinkers are aware of those messages they’re telling themselves and the direction they’re taking them.”
Holmes also quoted Suprina as saying that while positive thinkers do think negatively at times, these kinds of people turn those sad thoughts into actions rather than just moping around all the time.
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Written by Nicholas Ruiz, Sovereign Health Group writer