When it’s do or die: Learning about ‘Negotiating the Nonnegotiable’
Almost everyone has been there. You and another person have to resolve a conflict, be it in business or in your personal life. However, the problem doesn’t appear to be one that you both can solve. Whatever it is, you just can’t find a solution to the problem.
So how does one negotiate the seemingly unnegotiable? Whenever this situation arises, one can be sure that having the skills to overcome unsolvable conflicts like these will be extremely valuable. That is where Daniel Shapiro’s book comes in. Shapiro is here to help readers learn how to solve these problems using 20 years of research to show people how to change the way they look at relationships, improve how they deal with people and help them reach stronger agreements.
“Negotiating the Nonnegotiable: How to Resolve Your Most Emotionally Charged Conflicts” works to offer readers a step-by-step way to resolve even their most difficult problems. Shapiro provides his audience with a valuable guide that reveals five hidden emotional forces placing strain on their relationships and causing problems with negotiation. These forces include vertigo, repetition compulsion, taboos, assault on the sacred and identity politics.
Shapiro tells his readers that when people feel attacked, these different emotional forces pull them away from searching for a solution and drag them into adversarial conflict, meaning that a simple disagreement becomes an emotional war. Thankfully, “Negotiating the Nonnegotiable” teaches people how to overcome these powerful emotional forces, allowing them to reconcile relations and reach agreements in even the most provoking of disputes.
Shapiro’s book can help people in all different confrontational situations, from problems at home to arguments at work. Whatever the situation, this book is a treasured guide to helping people find reconciliation where they thought there was none.
What did readers think?
Readers both in and out of the professional sphere have offered a large amount of positive praise for “Negotiating the Nonnegotiable.” Daniel Golman, author of “Emotional Intelligence,” writes that “Daniel Shapiro brings brilliant insights to the baffling conundrum of … intractable disputes of all kinds. ‘Negotiating the Nonnegotiable’ will help anyone bring practical tools to the table whenever confrontation looms.”
Similarly, Matthew Dishop, a senior editor for The Economist Group, states, “Dan Shapiro has written a book that is at once profound and practical, heartfelt and hopeful . . . Immersion in his wisdom is a must for anyone trying to prevent or resolve conflicts.”
Other readers describe the book as “truly fantastic,” “brilliant” and something that “should be read by everyone in the kitchen, the board room and even the White House.”
About the author of ‘Negotiating the Nonnegotiable’
Daniel Shapiro, Ph.D., is a founder and director of the Harvard International Negotiation Program. He is also a world-renowned expert on conflict resolution, helping advise many people, from leaders of war-torn countries to senior executives to families in crisis. Along with writing “Negotiating the Nonnegotiable,” Shapiro has contributed to The New York Times, The Boston Globe and other publications and has been awarded the American Psychological Association’s Early Career Award and the Cloke-Millen Peacemaker of the Year award. Dr. Shapiro lives with his wife and three young boys who, he says, have been his greatest teachers on negotiating the nonnegotiable. To learn more about Daniel Shapiro and his books, visit his website.
About this author
Brianna Gibbons is a Web Producer for Sovereign Health. She graduated from Westmont College with a Bachelor of Arts in English. She currently works hard to organize and publish the content created by Sovereign Health for the blogs and websites. In her spare time, Brianna loves to read, write, knit, travel, dote on her pets and randomly go on small adventures with friends.